Murchinson Falls [The Nile is in the background!]
Dance party, we hung head lamps from the ceiling.
26 days until I return to America. I have come a long way. This has been an enjoyably difficult adventure thus far.
Papa T [Andrew]: Met Mama Silv in Nigeria in secondary school [high school]. Married eight years later. Funny funny man. He leads us in devotions and has very wise words to say. I was introduced to Farkel by him [intriguing game involving dice]. Very protective.
Katie: Niece of Mom and Dad. Lives in Texas. Love this girl, very similar to me, just a funny girl. My age.
Alex: Sweetest soul I have met in a long time. She always has an encouraging word to say. Daughter to mom and dad, 21, and very intelligent. Alex has a vision impairment and often jokes about being the blind girl. I love her to death.
Marissa: Sister to Alex, daughter of mom and dad. She is the baby of our group. Senior in HS [I am trying to get her to go to Point Loma]. She wants to be a nurse and will make a great one.
Uncle Jon: Unrelated to previously mentioned individuals. He has been doing trauma counseling for COTN for a few summers now. This man has a serious gift. He can get these kids to trust him in a second. He is also an amazing guitarist and vocalist. Dry humor. 29, Bay Area, good man.
Aunt Jerusha: Cousin of Jon. Just received her Masters in Literature from Loyola. This woman has more insight into the human race than anyone I have ever met. I have learned so many things from her. It has been so great having her. Always ready to listen, always ready to love.
Omari [You are loved]
These days are so full and beautiful, I am afraid my writing will not do them justice.
Mini-Bus: Bumpy, hot, crowded, and full of life! Each morning we boarded a shabby piece of metal that became our vessel to many hearts full of trauma. Two hours each way. Elbow bumping, dirt flying, hotter than hell, oh what a [joy ride]. Each irritating minute in that bus was forgotten as soon as we were able to view any part of our final destination, Obile Primary School located in Omoro. The last group of Muno’s [white people] that visited these kids came in 2006. [Can you sense the excitement?] In less than five seconds our van was surrounded. We could barely open the door. Hundreds of tiny hands wanted to shake mine, I wanted to hold them all forever.
Omoro: A village deep within the bush that was ravaged by the LRA. Only one adult male remains alive. Most children were abducted. Women became sex slaves. Children killed children. Families killed families. Hearts now lay broken.
On one of our journeys to Obile I felt confident and emotionally stable; ready to help these girls through recovery. Little did I know that our drive would call for great emotional strength and understanding. As we drove through the bush our van halted to a stop at the sight of a girl lying nearly in the middle of the road. She looked lifeless. Lucio [head of the trauma counseling program] immediately concluded that she was epileptic. He had seen her before and could tell she was mentally handicapped. Many Ugandans believe that mental illnesses are demons that take over an individual’s capability to function. They believe if one tries to help an individual with any mental disorder, that individual will encounter the demon as well, leaving them mentally handicapped. There must have been 100 eyes that averted that helpless girl on the road. We helped her up, got her some water and food, asked people near us to watch after, and headed on our way. Just moments later we saw a foot sticking out of the maize field. Another epileptic. These girls must have been no older than 15. I completely broke down. Not only are these girls handicapped, they are completely alone in this poverty stricken, war torn country. I am not sure what can be done about this but I had to get myself to understand that I could not fix it, not now, but that someday it can be fixed.
Overall, our week of counseling went well. The girls were not as open as we had expected them to be with their stories but they did not have to be. We went through “Two Angels” [read previous blog for description] and asked them to tell us about their own stories. When asked if any of the girls had seen someone die, all hands were raised. When asked if anyone had been forced to kill, hands were hesitant but eventually were raised. All of these girls had been abducted and forced to do unimaginable things. Talking through experiences led to many emotions. These girls closed their eyes, experienced their traumas, and dealt with their demons all over again. We could see their lips moving, asking for forgiveness, and their tears rolling down their faces. This is a grueling task, one that I cannot even imagine. I pray with all my heart that it gave them peace, if only for a moment.
If I have learned anything about Uganda thus far it is that their weddings are culturally rich and quite long! Edward and Caitlin tied the knot on Saturday the 11. I was blessed to be in this wedding as a bridesmaid. Caitlin is one unique woman. She is from Tillamook OR, 23, and an aspiring teacher. She met Edward two years ago and has not seen him since. I could tell Edward was crazy about her but, at first, did not see the reciprocation. Eventually it came and I knew this couple was going to accomplish many good things. Pictures of our dresses will be up soon. The reception consisted of traditional food and dance, singing, the giving of gifts, and a lot of spoken words that I did not understand. I hung out with the children the whole time. It was literally an all day thing [exhaustion set in quick]. The formal after reception dinner was at Hotel Lira. It was very nice. Food consisted of Irish [potatoes], fried beef, fried chicken, millet bread [black mushy millet that tastes like cigarettes], plantain, greens [spinach type stuff with ground nut sauce], rice, and beans. Enjoyable. Sleep was sweet and the next morning Elena, Alisa, and I skipped church to sleep [we were sick].
I have been woken up the past two nights by the smell and sweet sound of rain. This does not mean it has been cooler!! The weather has been nice, reminiscent of San Diego, but so hot [African hot, Dad] this past few days.
Market Adventure: Boda Boda to the market, bought soda and chocolate, ate sambosas [fried triangles full of lentils and deliciousness], got some amazing flat bread, scolded the furniture man for making the mosquito net holders too big, and walked home to the sound of thunder. The kids came over tonight to welcome Papa Clark [founder of COTN]. They did their traditional dances which are absolutely adorable [I tear up every time].
Days have been good. Busy. Emotional. Full.
I hope to blog more soon.
Safari Saturday-Sunday.
Goodbye
If I had a glass of champagne I’d make the most sincere toast to American Freedom. I miss your strange ways my land. I appreciate your strive for equality and your lack of Malarial infused mosquitoes. The stars will be my fireworks tonight [I hope, it’s been cloudy].
Dad: I hope you ignite some giants.
Uncle Rob: Happy Birthday.
Joey: I have been telling everyone, including Ugandans, that you made the Simi High soccer team.
There is something extremely emotional about seeing a six-year old wash his old laundry, a five year old make a mposha [staple food in Uganda, made from ground corn and water] spoon out of wood with a dull knife, babies carrying babies, young ones shelling ground nuts, and orphans forming families with other orphans. I admire these children in a way that I cannot yet describe.
This morning we ventured to the children’s home after breakfast and helped them with their chores described above. I watched in awe. They laugh and talk when they do these tasks, giving one hundred percent of their effort. Shelling ground nuts [equivalent to peanuts] was such a joy. They are roasted after shelling, and taste fantastic. The little boys mopped the whole house happily. All who have ever complained about chores, feel ashamed [myself included].
I have had two children come up to me on two different occasions with burning hot bodies. Each time no one knew they were sick. Joseph, who I have felt drawn to due to his name, laid down on my lap and stated to cry. I immediately got up and got some ice and he just dumped it on his head. He was later taken to the clinic for Malaria medication. Today I found Lucky in her bed sweating like crazy. I got to take her to the clinic. There were many women with babies outside waiting to be seen. It seems that they use injections over pills, and that there are three injections to cure Malaria. I frequently see children with IV bases in their hands, as the nurses leave them in until all injections are complete. Very different than American health care practices.
Mom: we need to rebuild Ugandan health care.
Changing subjects…
Uganda is in great need of psychiatric counseling. COTN has developed a program called “Two Angels”. Its purpose is to alleviate post-traumatic stress syndrome [PTSD]. “Two Angels” is a story of two children that are forced to become child soldiers. The story goes through many traumatic experiences that child soldiers face when under the rule of the LRA. The two angels are with these two children throughout the story, watching over them and guiding them. Obviously they do not save them completely from the atrocities of war but the emphasis that they are always there is very important. Many of these children feel like they are completely abandoned. They are not only orphaned, but also extremely disoriented within society upon return to their villages. The children being counseled are asked questions that go along with the story. Unraveling their experiences is crucial for any sort of healing to being. PTSD is a very serious disorder. It plagues people’s thoughts and causes great dysfunction. At the end of the week-long counseling program, the children face the “glass wall”. The best way to deal with PTSD is to relive the traumatic experiences and then end them peacefully. The children are encouraged to imagine the experience that is severely haunting them. These haunting experiences usually deal with forced killing or sabotage from the LRA. They then are told to ask for forgiveness to the individual they hurt or they are told to tell the LRA to leave them alone. If the counseling is successful, their haunting will be diminished. This can bring great peace to many children, although it obviously is just a small step in a hundred mile long healing process.
My team will begin this counseling program next week. I have already heard a few stories of the children in the COTN home. A beautiful ten-year old girl was crying Thursday night so I took her by the hand and sat with her for an hour trying to cease her tears. The language barrier makes things difficult as well as the internalization of pain within each child. She finally told me that the demons came and took her into the bush and killed her mom. She said she was sad because she grew close to one of the individuals on the other team who was leaving. I felt that the best thing to do in this situation was to just hold her on the couch. She cried many tears and told her it was okay to be sad sometimes, that we all get sad, and that we do not have to pretend to be strong.
We have finally put together a schedule for the next few weeks. We will be tutoring, working in schools as aides, engaging in village ministry, leading bible studies, helping around the villages near our compound, and whatever else Africa throws at us.
Excitement!
God Bless America…If I had a glass of champagne I’d make the most sincere toast to American Freedom. I miss your strange ways my land. I appreciate your strive for equality and your lack of Malarial infused mosquitoes. The stars will be my fireworks tonight [I hope, it’s been cloudy].
Dad: I hope you ignite some giants.
Uncle Rob: Happy Birthday.
Joey: I have been telling everyone, including Ugandans, that you made the Simi High soccer team.
There is something extremely emotional about seeing a six-year old wash his old laundry, a five year old make a mposha [staple food in Uganda, made from ground corn and water] spoon out of wood with a dull knife, babies carrying babies, young ones shelling ground nuts, and orphans forming families with other orphans. I admire these children in a way that I cannot yet describe.
This morning we ventured to the children’s home after breakfast and helped them with their chores described above. I watched in awe. They laugh and talk when they do these tasks, giving one hundred percent of their effort. Shelling ground nuts [equivalent to peanuts] was such a joy. They are roasted after shelling, and taste fantastic. The little boys mopped the whole house happily. All who have ever complained about chores, feel ashamed [myself included].
I have had two children come up to me on two different occasions with burning hot bodies. Each time no one knew they were sick. Joseph, who I have felt drawn to due to his name, laid down on my lap and stated to cry. I immediately got up and got some ice and he just dumped it on his head. He was later taken to the clinic for Malaria medication. Today I found Lucky in her bed sweating like crazy. I got to take her to the clinic. There were many women with babies outside waiting to be seen. It seems that they use injections over pills, and that there are three injections to cure Malaria. I frequently see children with IV bases in their hands, as the nurses leave them in until all injections are complete. Very different than American health care practices.
Mom: we need to rebuild Ugandan health care.
Changing subjects…
Uganda is in great need of psychiatric counseling. COTN has developed a program called “Two Angels”. Its purpose is to alleviate post-traumatic stress syndrome [PTSD]. “Two Angels” is a story of two children that are forced to become child soldiers. The story goes through many traumatic experiences that child soldiers face when under the rule of the LRA. The two angels are with these two children throughout the story, watching over them and guiding them. Obviously they do not save them completely from the atrocities of war but the emphasis that they are always there is very important. Many of these children feel like they are completely abandoned. They are not only orphaned, but also extremely disoriented within society upon return to their villages. The children being counseled are asked questions that go along with the story. Unraveling their experiences is crucial for any sort of healing to being. PTSD is a very serious disorder. It plagues people’s thoughts and causes great dysfunction. At the end of the week-long counseling program, the children face the “glass wall”. The best way to deal with PTSD is to relive the traumatic experiences and then end them peacefully. The children are encouraged to imagine the experience that is severely haunting them. These haunting experiences usually deal with forced killing or sabotage from the LRA. They then are told to ask for forgiveness to the individual they hurt or they are told to tell the LRA to leave them alone. If the counseling is successful, their haunting will be diminished. This can bring great peace to many children, although it obviously is just a small step in a hundred mile long healing process.
My team will begin this counseling program next week. I have already heard a few stories of the children in the COTN home. A beautiful ten-year old girl was crying Thursday night so I took her by the hand and sat with her for an hour trying to cease her tears. The language barrier makes things difficult as well as the internalization of pain within each child. She finally told me that the demons came and took her into the bush and killed her mom. She said she was sad because she grew close to one of the individuals on the other team who was leaving. I felt that the best thing to do in this situation was to just hold her on the couch. She cried many tears and told her it was okay to be sad sometimes, that we all get sad, and that we do not have to pretend to be strong.
We have finally put together a schedule for the next few weeks. We will be tutoring, working in schools as aides, engaging in village ministry, leading bible studies, helping around the villages near our compound, and whatever else Africa throws at us.
Excitement!
God Bless America…